So on FB....I know, I have tried to break this habit but I still have family on there that refuse to give it up....I started to follow a group called No Bull Shit Weight loss.  or nobs weight loss.  Its free and pretty good thinking.  Connie, who is the creator, has lost lots of weight and the process has worked for her.  It is not a diet.  You eat what you want but it is a change of mind set.  

Connie will send you 4 videos by email that get you started.  All free and no ads.  I think there is a higher tier that might have a cost but I am not sure.   She does not even sell her work books. You down load them and print them out on your own.  That part I like.  I am kind of put off by the bad language.  I think the process can be accomplished without the work F--k or S--t.  But whatever, its her style.  
What she has to say is simply common sense.  Things we probably have thought of but she puts them in a way that you dont feel the guilt.  You can really wrap your head around her approach to weight loss.  While I can see how it works, I do have some questions about some of the things taught.  For example, eat when you are hungry.  I understand what she is saying but a lot of comments are from ppl who dont eat till 3 in the afternoon for example and then eat way too much and their body feels starved.  

I have taken a different approach while incorporating some of her philosophy.  After having been to a nutritionist for diabetics because Tom is one, and talking to my Dr. and doing some research on my own, I have come up with a simple plan that is working.  Working good actually.  After I lose more weight and can count myself a success with this approach I am working on, I might just put it out there and let others to benefit from my trial and error. 

Every diet works.  At least in the short run.  Nobs Weight loss and my approach are not diets but changes in attitude and how we approach food.  My one thought for today came to me in the middle of the night while thinking of regrets I have in my life.  One is allowing myself to get so fat.  You see I had no guidance.  I had no idea of where to begin.  And now that I am there the regret is huge.  But it dawned on my last night.  Some regrets are past and cant be reversed but not this one.  I woke up and said....If you can do something about your fat legs, why would you not do it?  Mind set.  Change the mind set.  That is what Noom says.  And Nobs.  Now to fit that into my approach.  Like a mantra...everyday.  Along with my prayers. 
What I got was my mother saying "you would be so pretty if only you were not so fat"  Or my husband saying "we (like he was a willing participate) really need to do something about your weight".  Mom...I am pretty!  Period.  Dont you see me?  And husband, I love you but you are ashamed of me.  And we really need to do something about your drinking.  

I am not here to moan and groan.  Believe me I find enough of that on FB with the women (consequently I have not heard from any men) on the Nobs site.  Everyone has a sad story.  Yeah...me too but it all boils down to how you, I, approach the past.  So, I have chosen to forget it.  Its past and now look forward.  Who cares how I got here.  Here I am.  So if I can change it why would I not do just that.  Honestly I never thought like this before.  Moving on!